Filters- Duck’s theory

Honestly, I have to be physically attracted to someone, before even talking to them. Once, I am physically attracted, their personality has to be attracting as well. I’m not going to be able to be romantically into someone, without being physically attracted to them first. Duck’s theory makes complete sense, some filters I use more than others, when considering if they can be potential romantic partners, but I do and have used all of them before, it just depends on the situation. I’ve eliminated different men using different filters it just depends on the situation I am in. However, I usually use interaction cues and preinteraction cues the most. If I can’t hold a conversation or feel comfortable being myself around that person, then I will eliminate that person. I’ve connected with someone the first time I’ve talked to them, you feel a sense of comfort and you learn you can be yourself. Preinteraction cues are also important to me when deciding. If there nonverbal messages come off as they are better than me, they don’t take care of themselves then I usually won’t waste my time. I know what I like when looking at a person. If they look like they haven’t shaved in a couple weeks, it shows me they don’t care about themselves, which tells me they probably don’t care about working and having a successful life or goals. It may seem harsh, but I’ve been hurt way too many times, not to judge someone or eliminate them because of this. Of course sociological cues have an effect on a relationship; I don’t want to get involved with someone they won’t ever be around. It’s just pointless to me. There are a great deal of reasons why we eliminate people, most of the time we know what we want, so why waste time.