Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Cyberspace Friendship
Surprisingly, I just recently met a friend exclusively through cyberspace. However, I am almost always against it, it’s a little different because this friend, is actually one of my best friends cousins. I’ve never met him because he is currently in Florida going to school. We met over Facebook, he requested me because I had the same last name as one of his friends, and he thought it was cool because if you know my last name it isn’t common. Well, we got to talking a great deal and now were extremely close friends. It’s different from a f2f relationship because of the fact that he can’t judge me. He has never seen me in person and doesn’t necessary know how I act around other people. He can’t judge me by the way I dress or how I am with other people. I’ve opened up to him in such a sort amount of time and I never do that, not even with my very closest friends. I feel like I can tell him anything and he honestly feels the same way. He is extremely honest and gives me great advice and there is no judgment. He is supposed to move back to the bay area and I am a little nervous because I don’t want to lose this great relationship. I would never have considered having a cyberspace friendship because of all the wacky people out there, but it’s nice to know that he is my best friends cousin and that’s why I believe I’ve let this friendship get to the extent in which it is in.
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I liked how you gave this guy a chance even if you are usually against online relationships. It definitely helps if the person in general is related or knows someone you know; it helps make your social circle more tightly knit.
ReplyDeleteI think your point about online friends not being able to judge you is also a good point. Online friends judge you based only on what you say, and sometimes that can help strengthen or weaken an online relationship. But you also don't worry so much about your nonverbal and visual cues, either, which makes a face-to-face meeting somewhat awkward: you're not entirely sure what to expect.
Good post on this. I really enjoyed it :)
One thing I learned is to be careful about who I add and why on pages such as Facebook. I personally find it pointless to add someone who I don't know, know I will never talk to, and will just take up space on my page. There are even family members who I'm not close with that I didn't add, just because I find it kind of insulting to act like I care. I know that might sound really harsh, but I would rather it be broadcast that I have a few close friends that I care about, than to be, for lack of a better term and to steal my roommate's terminology, a myspace whore, someone who thinks it's awesome to have 8,000,000 friends, very few of which I actually know.
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